The Baby Boomer Generation has its own share of happily single-again mature men and women. Many singles in the Boomers demographic are single-again after having divorced or been widowed after a former marriage. These senior singles are in midlife dating again with a mature well-seasoned and practical understanding of what it takes to create a real relationship. Sure the senior online dating sites are a great place to meet boomer singles. But what about where to meet singles in their 40s, 50s, and 60s offline in the real world locally near where you live? Read on to discover where you can find mature single seniors like yourself in your local area.
One of the questions that comes up when I lead internet dating workshop in the offline world is where are all the attractive and available over 40, 50 and even early 60s single men and women? Certainly single men and women joke in person about reading people’s online dating profiles citing that they are 61 but looking to date someone as young as 20 years younger than they are. Both men and women have this as a challenge. Whether you want to consider this to be “Dirty Old Men” or jibe about “Cougar Dating,” this is the 21st century and a lot of the former social taboos about age differences in serious relationships have gone by the wayside. I find that refreshing and generally a good thing. Because then people can open themselves up better to looking for and finding a serious lasting love relationship based upon real attraction, caring, shared values, and aligned lives. Not based on the number on their birth certificate or the number of candles on their birthday cake.
However, the same dilemma which many of the single never marrieds face in their 30s, “Where are all the quality singles?” is the same dilemma which mature singles over 40, over 50, and over 60 encounter. “Where are all the quality available singles around my own age?”
Just as singles in their 30s actually must go out and seek out establishing a social life and finding appropriate social venues to meet singles in their social peer age group, so the singles looking to date after 40, 50, and 60 must do so as well. Additionally, yes, over time, there are fewer singles in your precise age group and demographic. This is one of the reasons to loosen up what might be your strict search criteria. Could he be a few years younger than you? Couldn’t he be? You like baseball, she likes hockey. Well at least you two both enjoy sports and can engage in conversations about your sports at different times of the year.
Whenever there is a major sports underway, that means you just have a wonderful opportunity to go watch the games at a Sport Bar. Now, I received questions from some very attractive mature single women in their 40s and into the 50s and 60s about which sports bars to go to where they would at the same time meet men in their 50s and 60s. There isn’t exactly 1 Hot Over 50 Singles Bar precisely in any metropolitan area. The market is just different. However, what you can do is start to place yourself at the Sports Bars which are more of a locally owned and operated venue in your town or city. You will encounter some folks in the 30s, their 40s, their 50s, and their 60s at cool local bars like these. But it’s likely not going to be like when were in our 20s and early 30s where we go to a bar or dance club on a Saturday night, and come home with several phone numbers, squealing about the cute guy we just met and hoping he really does ask us out next week. When you go to a local watering hole, you want to dress attractively while yet casually. Have as your goal not “to meet THE one for me” which would just put way too much pressure on yourself as well as on the folks there. Instead, take a smaller goal like, “I want to meet 3 new people and converse with them. And just maybe 1 of them will be single and about my age, too.” Just do begin to open things up socially and comfortably, and you’ll have gotten things started for finding senior mature love right where you live.