Facebook for Grandparents, Seniors & Baby Boomers FREE Short Course & Preview

Facebook for Grandparents, Seniors and Baby Boomers:

Are you a Grandparent or a Senior struggling with Facebook? Do your parents ask you for help with basic Facebook questions? Find answers to the most common questions and frustrations in this complete beginner’s guide for grandparents, seniors and baby boomers! See everything included in this free online course by reading more below. Get access to the full course on Udemy at https://www.myvideovoice.com or directly at https://www.udemy.com/facebook-for-grandparents-and-boomers/?couponCode=YT29. Gift this to your parents or grandparents by following the link, then choosing “More Options” under the Coupon Code.

First, this video begins with an overview the questions grandparents, seniors and baby boomers sent to me about their issues with using Facebook. Use the times below to go straight to the question.

06:47 What is Social Media?
11:32 My family says I need a Facebook – what is that?
13:58 I just got used to email, why do I need Facebook too?
16:34 Who can find me on Facebook?
19:04 Can everybody see everything?
20:33 Can you get a computer virus from Facebook?
23:10 How do I post?
29:37 When I write the name of someone in a comment, what does that do?
33:56 How do I create my Facebook profile?
39:14 What are the ads and notifications on the right side of my Facebook page?

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I’ve been teaching social media for more than 6 years to entrepreneurs, small businesses and nonprofits, and I’ve helped many of my friends who are grandparents and seniors get set up and familiar with the basics of Facebook. I’ve been waiting for a class made for grandparents and boomers to come out so I could pass that along – and then I realized, why am I waiting? So I reached out to a couple of dozen grandparents and seniors asking them what are your main questions and frustrations around using Facebook. And that’s what this course- Facebook for Grandparents, Seniors and Boomers – is all about.

In addition to the videos included in this free preview video, the full course teaches parents, grandparents, seniors and baby boomers Facebook basics like:

How do I share a picture or video on Facebook?
How can I use Facebook without being a “Facebook stalker”!
Is Facebook safe?
Can someone steal my Facebook identity?
How do I change my Facebook profile picture?
How do I comment on someone else’s Facebook post?
Do I have to accept every Facebook friend request?
Who can find me on Facebook?
Can I leave Facebook if I want to?
How do I change my privacy settings on Facebook?
How do I change my email notifications from Facebook?
How do I tell Facebook who can write on my Timeline?
Can I send a private message to someone on Facebook?

Facebook for Grandparents, Seniors and Baby Boomers is a full 62 lecture course with over 3.5 hours of video lessons. Using screen recordings, I’ll walk you through each answer. In the full course, I’ve also included documents you can download or print out with step by step walk throughs of what you’ve just learned.

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You may have more questions about using Facebook as a grandparent, senior or baby boomer – you can use the Discussion section to ask a question – and get additional help from me and your fellow students.

This course can be your community with other grandparents, seniors and baby boomers for the basics of using Facebook, or a simple step by step guide for the questions you need most.

You can take this course at your own speed, skip to lectures that answer your main questions first, or take the lectures in order to build your knowledge base.

So are you ready to have fun and learn about this Facebook thing? Enroll today – and I’ll see you in class.

Baby Boomer Music – The Best Of All Times

Everybody loves music; it pleases as well as relaxes. It helps you unwind and relax at the end of a long and stressful day at work. Listening to music gives you the rest and relaxation that you badly need. It also takes your mind off stressful thoughts and ideas.

No wonder that music is an inseparable aspect of the American culture. A number of people turn on the music in a bid to concentrate better on their work. Some enjoy exercising to the accompaniment of music. Some listen to their favorite tunes after a long and stressful day at work.

Why does music have such an effect on our minds and bodies? Studies have revealed that people who work as they listen to music or listen to music at the end of a tiring day exhibit more productivity at work. Experts suggest that people improve their power of concentration by listening to music. Music blocks the stressful elements in your immediate atmosphere. It also provides a sense of joy as you work and, therefore, makes you more productive.

The time of the baby boomers is marked by rich developments in classical music. If you are a fan of the Beatles, you are a fan of music from the era of the baby boomers. The songs of famous singers, such as John Lennon, based on the Vietnam war and longing for peace also spring from the baby boomer time.

What is commonly considered to be “hippie music” also belongs to the time of the baby boomers. Another genre than enjoyed great popularity during the times of the baby boomers is Rhythm and Blues. The most popular Rhythm and Blues baby boomer artists were Sounds of Philadelphia, Motown, Memphis, and so on.

Music really flourished during the times of the baby boomers. Acoustic music enjoyed great popularity during this time, and artists such as Boz Scaggs, Crosby, Nash and Young, Simon Garfunkel, Joni Mitchell, Stills, and many more enjoyed great fame and popularity.

Modern music was born in the age of baby boomers. Great baby boomer artists have become musical legends of today. Modern music, be in Rhythm and Blues or Rock, is strongly influenced by baby boomer music.

If you are a fan of Rock and Roll or Motown Sounds, purchase a CD of baby boomer classical music. If you prefer classical music in the genre of Rock and Roll, go in for the music of Led Zeppelin, Ramones, and other hot stars of the baby boomer times.

Are you a jazz lover? If you are, listen to baby boomer jazz artists such as George Benson, Dave Koz, Sade, Spyro Gyra, the Rippingtons, and many more.

You can purchase baby boomer music from your local stores; it is still available. Modern technology can convert your baby boomer LP vinyl disc into a digital format so that it could be burned into a CD. You can listen to your LP by converting it to a CD.

The timeless baby boomer musical classics are the best music you can get your hands on. It will not only relax you, but will also transport you to the times of these artists.

An Open Letter About Dirty Grandpa and Baby Boomer Party Movies – Consequence of Sound (blog)

Dear Baby Boomers,

I’m just a random millennial, but I wanted to take some time out from whining, acting entitled, not looking for a job, listening to inferior music, or whatever it is that you think I’m doing with my life to see what’s going on with you.

Are you guys OK? Are you maybe feeling a bit insecure about your shifting place in the world?

I ask because there’s a new naughty grandfather and grandson buddy comedy starring Robert De Niro called Dirty Grandpa coming out on January 21st, and it occurs to me that this is the third time in as many years that the star has been in a film in which his character proves that he can party as well as any young whippersnapper (Last Vegas), teach a millennial a thing or two (The Intern), or party as well as any millennial while teaching them a thing or two (Dirty Grandpa). You know that De Niro is a highly decorated, Academy Award-winning legend, right? Surely there are better ways to use this incredible cinematic resource than to constantly transform him into the physical embodiment of a generation’s increasing anxieties about its own relevance.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not an ageist. Some of my best friends are baby boomers. As someone who grew up with the radical notion that women over 50 could still lead interesting lives and fuel excellent stories thanks to The Golden Girls – and as someone who consistently gets to watch 25-year-old Jennifer Lawrence play women of my ostensibly advanced age now – I am both emotionally and aesthetically invested in movies and TV shows that can explore complex characters of all ages. There’s so much more to the human condition than pretty white people under 30 or 40, and I want to see all of it on screen.

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As both creators and consumers of entertainment, your generation is in a unique position to help me realize this dream. While the long-coveted 18-24 demographic remains film’s biggest market, you are its largest growing one. As the New York Times reported in February 2011, “while the percentage of moviegoers in the older population remains relatively small, the actual number of older moviegoers is growing explosively — up 67 percent since 1995, according to GfK MRI, a media research firm. And the first of the 78 million baby boomers are hitting retirement age with some leisure hours to fill and a long-dormant love affair with movies.”

At that point, the Times’ vision of a boomer-influenced future was downright rosy. Arguing that your interest in more thoughtful, adult fare was leading to the unexpected box office success of smart(er) films like True Grit, Black Swan, and The King’s Speech,  writers Brooks Barnes and Michael Cieply believed that your resurrected cultural cache would lead to a new wave of more complex films populated by older stars.

Almost five years later, it looks like they were only partially right. We have been treated to the charming froth of frolicking boomers and seniors in The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel (2011) and its sequel. We’ve seen Liam Neeson remain an action star and Helen Mirren become one. And we’ve witnessed mature love stories explored with a light comic touch in the well-meaning Hope Springs (2012) and with piercing devastation in the sublime 45 Years (2015).


Unfortunately, we’ve also been subjected to some truly pandering fare like Parental Guidance (2012), a piece of pablum that exists to reassure grandparents that their yuppie hipster children are raising the next generation all wrong, and Last Vegas and Dirty Grandpastyle party pictures about old men (and the occasional slightly less old woman) gleefully acting less than half their ages. All together, this fare becomes the cinematic equivalent of your average boomer Facebook profile filled with jokes about lazy millennials and countless sad memes thirstily pitting old rock stars against current pop stars: a mess of regurgitated ideas created to prey upon your worst instincts and assure you that you are better and smarter and more mature than kids these days, but also totally cooler than them.

I get that the world can be an increasingly scary place as you grow older. Technology evolves at a rate faster than you can comprehend. Younger people can navigate the blurred lines between everything from genre to gender in a way that society didn’t even allow you to conceptualize let alone explore when you were their age. So many of you appear to fear Kanye West the way that your ancestors feared the horseless carriage. Being on the older end of the millennial spectrum, I can already sympathize with the terrifyingly rapid and remorseless passage of time and the desire to escape from it. Sometimes, when I stumble upon yet another teenager making more money on YouTube than I will probably ever see in my lifetime, or find out about a problematic thing my fave has done, I run straight into the obvious and empty solace of 20-odd Buzzfeed lists about forgotten toys and hair clips from the early ‘90s.

But here’s the thing: None of us are dead yet. At worst, you’re only slightly more dead than I am. We don’t have to be the primary driving force behind pop culture to have a place in it. We all have so many new stories in us, but we can’t begin to tell them until we’re willing to accept the changes in our minds, bodies, and relationship to the world as a whole. We don’t need to make our silver screen avatars hang out with Zac Efron to prove anything. We can let them do new and exciting things of their own.

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If you’re a creator of content, whether it be films, television, or even fan fiction (yes, I know what you’ve been getting up to in the Star Trek and Man From U.N.C.L.E. fandoms for the past 50 years), work on stories that mean something to you, whether that’s deep dramatic truth or something that just genuinely amuses you and the person you are now. If you’re a consumer, don’t support cynical, half-assed entertainment that reduces your life experiences to trite post-midlife crisis jokes. You deserve better than that! We all deserve better than that! And if you find yourself lost at any point, you can always ask yourself “What Lily Tomlin would do?” because the actress (who is slightly older than your generation at 76) has been tackling some really promising material about fully-fledged older woman on both the big (Grandma) and small screens (Grace and Frankie) lately. You could do worse for a role model.

To get to that point, all you need to do is suck it up, stop whining, accept that the world doesn’t revolve around you or owe you anything, work hard to better yourself every day, and make your superiors take notice of all the good things you have to offer. You keep telling us that this is simple to do when it comes to the economy and getting a job, so you should be able to handle it quite easily when it comes to entertainment and getting better movies for yourselves.


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Australia’s Twin Towns – A Holiday Destination for Baby Boomers

We discovered the appeal of the Twin Towns on the Queensland/New South Wales border by accident when I planned a surprise 30th wedding anniversary weekend away with my wife. A colleague had suggested that I look at going to Coolangatta/Tweed Heads. So I contacted a travel agent in the area explaining what I wanted to do. She booked us into a resort on the beachfront at Coolangatta and suggested I take my wife to see a show in the Showroom at the Twin Towns Services Club. It was a Neil Diamond Tribute show with an eight piece orchestra. The seats were in the fourth row dead centre of the auditorium. It was fabulous.

That was the start of our love affair with the Twin Towns. You might say the Twin Towns have become our second home as we holiday there several times a year for short stays. Let me explain why.

You can swim on three patrolled beaches, Coolangatta, Greenmount and Rainbow Bay. You can surf at Snapper Rocks, Duranbah, Greenmount or Kirra points. Walking and Bike paths abound along the beaches and the Tweed River. You can fish in the river, off the beach or go ocean fishing. You can indulge in whale watching from Point Danger or go out in a boat from the Tweed River. You can even take a scenic cruise up the river.

In the winter you can be part of the “Cooly Rocks” Festival that features Rock and Roll of the fifties and sixties era and marvel at the restored cars of that era that are paraded during the festival in the local streets.

If you are into Lawn Bowls that the Tweed Heads Bowls Club is the place for you during the wonderful winter sunshine. Bowlers from all over Australia make the Twin Towns their home over many weeks during the winter. For the golfer, there are a number of courses within driving distance with the Coolangatta/Tweed Heads course worth a look.

If dancing is your passion then the Twin Towns Services club is for you. Several different dancing vogues are available each week. They include Line Dancing, Rock and Roll as well as different versions of Ballroom Dancing. Live entertainment occurs daily at Twin Towns Services Club and late in the week at the Bowls club.

The Twin Towns club have a large showroom where live shows are staged each week on Friday or Saturday. Mid-week shows, called Morning Melodies, are performed on most Tuesdays or Wednesdays at a small cost. Most shows are aimed at the Baby Boomers and their taste in music.

All the clubs provide a variety of dining opportunities. The best value for money is the buffet at the Coolangatta/Tweed Heads Golf Club. If you like to play the poker machines there are five big clubs in the areas providing a great variety of machines to play with various promotions on most days.

If Bingo is your “go”, the Tweed Heads Bowls Club has the best selection of games. Their Thursday night game has much to recommend it. If you want a game that stretches your concentration, then go to the Benora Club in South Tweed on a Tuesday night for their Novelty Bingo.

There is a great variety of accommodation available from caravan parks, to apartment and resorts. We stay at the Twin Towns Resort, adjacent to the club. It is managed by Mantra. We do this because of its central location; the cost is very competitive and there is a variety of accommodation from a hotel room to one and two bedroom apartments with direct access to the club. Although not on the beach front, there are views of the beach, the Tweed River Mouth; the Harbour as well as stretches of the river to the south and the ocean beyond.

Lastly, for interstate and overseas visitors, the Coolangatta airport is about five minutes’ drive away. Interstate and overseas flights arrive in great numbers daily to make it one of the busiest airports in Australia. With all these advantages you might think that this area is one of the busiest on the Gold Coast. But, in comparison to Surfers Paradise, Broadbeach and Burleigh Heads it is a quiet retreat most of the year. The Roxy Pro Surfing contest in March, Easter, “Cooly Rocks” festival in June, any long weekend and the Christmas/New Year period are the only times you need to avoid if you want a quiet, relaxing holiday.

Baby Boomers Have Untapped Potential as a Legion of Retired Activists – Inverse

Retirement is on the mind of baby boomers: Since 2011 an estimated 10,000 boomers have turned 65 each day. Now the question is whether the generation that kickstarted the social movements of the 1960s and 1970s will retire to Arnold Palmers and Jeopardy! reruns or purpose their newfound free time to join activist causes. Boomers are known to talk the talk of idealism, but their actual participation in activist movements has been anemic compared with the potential their massive numbers could mean.

Of course, sheer numbers is no guarantee of energy or even of willpower. But it takes only a small fraction of a huge cohort to make a difference. “Given the low level of activism at midlife, questions can be raised about any predicted upsurge in activism as the boomers move into old age,” writes Boston College professor John Williams in the journal Generations. “However, there are reasons to believe that there may be at least some increase in the level of senior activism with the aging of the boomers. Even if there were no increase in the proportion of the elderly population politically active, there would be reason to expect an increase in the amount of activism on demographic grounds alone.”

The size of the boomer generation is really where their power as a generational force lies — by 2020, for the first time in U.S. history, more Americans will be above 65 than 5 or under, according to Pearson. Their numbers have shaped Congress for the past two decades and will continue to do so for at least another 10 years: Boomers currently compose 63 percent of the House and 62 percent of the Senate.

Described as “idealist” by generational analysts, baby boomers are categorized as a generation that “uncompromisingly adheres to their deeply held principles all their lives.” This makes for a gridlocked Congress — but could be the characterization that could make for a legion of passionate activists.

A Bernie Sanders supporter at a campaign rally in Virginia.

A Bernie Sanders supporter at a campaign rally in Virginia.

Jeri Shepherd of Greeley, Colorado says that most of the people she sees being politically active are either the really young, or the people her age or older. Greeley, 57, retired from public defense in 2010. While she works occasionally now at her own practice, Greeley has found that not working full time has freed her up for political activism.

“I started getting involved in party politics in 2004, so knowing that I would have time to work on campaigns was certainly a factor in the timing of my decision to retire,” Greeley tells Inverse.

The central point of Greeley’s activism is the Bernie Sanders campaign. She has volunteered at Sanders events and is involved in canvas launches. In September her birthday party doubled as a fundraising event — Sanders and Greeley happen to share the same birth date.

“I’ve met some extraordinary people through volunteering — part of what is fun about getting involved in campaigns is getting meet so many people from different generations,” Greeley says. “As a whole, volunteers tend to be younger or older, because who else has the time to do it? If you’re trying to volunteering while working with a full-time job, you’re not going to have a lot of time to campaign and what not — you’re going to be busy with your family, especially if you have small children at home.”

Greeley’s passion notwithstanding, boomer generation activism won’t be predictably left or right. The generation is politically polarized, in part because boomers are “the first U.S. generation to experience a mixture of national pride and cynicism about the role of their country to the world.” The exit polling for boomers showed a narrower margin between parties than any other generation in the 2004, 2008, and 2012 presidential elections.

The youngest boomers (those born between 1962 and 1964) and the oldest boomers (born 1946 to 1947), who came of age at either the height of the Vietnam War or the hippie era, tend to lean the most Democratic. The in-between boomers, born 1950 to 1953, are usually more Reagan-friendly Republican. But they’re all liable to swap parties on you.

“Predicting the politics of the highly important baby boom generation over the next decade as the group moves into its senior years is highly speculative,” reads a 2014 Gallup report. “Baby boomers, holding the distinction of the largest generation in the U.S. population, will continue to exert disproportionate influence over the U.S. political process for at least the next 25 years.”

A Tea Party protester outside a fundraiser for President Obama.

A Tea Party protester outside a fundraiser for President Obama.

Case in point: On the opposite side of the spectrum of Greeley and her fellow Sanders volunteers is the Tea Party, which, writes Jim Spence and Curtis Ellis in the Los Angeles Times is “a harbinger of midlife crisis, not political crisis.” Mostly white and male, as of 2010, 46 percent of Tea Party members were between the ages of 46 and 64.

“For men of a certain age, it [the Tea Party] offers a counterculture experience familiar from adolescence — underground radio, esoteric tracts, consciousness-raising teach-ins, and rallies replete with extroverted behavior to shock the squares,” write Spence and Ellis. “But the (often-overlooked) truth about the ‘60s is that the great accomplishments we associate with that era — civil rights, putting a man on the moon — were made not by boomers but by the generation born before World War II.”

Protesters of the draft and the Vietnam War in 1968.

Protesters of the draft and the Vietnam War in 1968.

In a report on the older members of the nonprofit sector, baby boomers reported that the felt anxious about their future — how would they stay relevant once they retired; how would they be able to contribute to progressive social change? They said they liked the energy of young activists, but essentially didn’t trust their commitment levels to get the job done — a point of irony as studies as historians have pointed out that the baby boomers who protested the Vietnam War in the 1960s were noticeably absent in the voices against the Iraq War.

Activism in their retired years seems to be a natural solution for baby boomers who want to stay relevant. Apathy may have inflicted the generation, but their sheer mass means that a great number of foot soldiers for whatever cause they choose to champion. What will motivate them? Greeley’s opinion, that a cause supported by intergenerational activists is more likely to succeed, would be a start. After all, while millennials missed out on contributing to the social movements of civil rights titans like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., they may actually be better activists.

“It’s a lot easier for people to understand a generation is active if they see one million people marching in the streets,” writes David Burstein in Mic. “But a million people marching in the street isn’t as effective in producing change as it was 50 years ago.” Boomers have become the ruling generation, the status quo. Concomitantly, they may be complacent. If they need to find the spark to get moving, they should just ask their kids.

Y.O.L.O. – The Differences Between Baby Boomers and Millenials

Do you work or live with a Millennial? Chances are that if you are a Baby Boomer, or even a member of Generation X, you find them to be quite different from you. For instance, you may have found (like I have) that to get them to answer the phone, you may first need to send them a text!

Millenials, also known as Generation Y, were born between the early 1980s and early 2000s. Currently, there are 83 million Millenials in the United States and they comprise the largest demographic in the country, being even more numerous than Boomers at 74 million.

Here are the top 10 traits of Millenials:

1. Want to make a difference

2. Work/life balance is important to them

3. Want more time with family and friends

4. There are no winners and losers

5. Do everything in groups – even dating

6. Want to be praised just for showing up

7. Have high expectations for quick advancement

8. Y.O.L.O. – You Only Live Once – so they are not going to wait for life to happen

9. May not necessarily work a traditional job

10. Connect with people – but technology is the tool that they use

Whereas 56% of American adults own a smartphone, 80% of Millenials have an Android or iPhone device and social media as their constant companions. 96% of Millenials participate in one or more forms of social media.


Back when you graduated from college, if you are a Boomer, you may have thought that only the “losers” moved back in with their parents. Not only is this now an accepted practice among Millenials, it is almost expected.

Because job opportunities after the Great Recession are still not as plentiful as they were for Baby Boomers when they started their careers and college debt levels have zoomed in recent years, 22.6 million Millenials have moved back in with Mom and/or Dad. If Millenials are employed after graduation from college, they likely are underemployed.

Besides the fact that many Millenials are physically still at home, family has always been important to them. In many cases, their parents viewed them as partners in the family, much different from the “command and control” ways many of their Boomer parents were raised by members of The Silent Generation.

“We’re Number Ten!”

Parents of Millenials made sure that while growing up their children took advantage of plenty of scholastic, social and sports opportunities. Millenials were proud to receive a trophy, even if their soccer team finished in tenth place.

Most Important Things to Millenials

According to Pew Research, Millenials say the most important things in their lives will be:

• 52% – being a good parent

• 30% – having a successful marriage

• 21% – helping others in need

• 20% – owning a home

• 15% – living a very religious life

• 15% – having a high-paying career

• 9% – having lots of free time

Millenials at Work

I recently was delivering a seminar to a group that consisted exclusively of Millenials. No one in the room was above the age of 30.

When I deliver the seminar to Baby Boomers and ask the question, “Who is a workaholic?”, 40 to 60% of the room raise their hands. But in this case, in response to the same question, not a single Millennial raised his or her hand. Zero.

Millenials think of themselves quite differently on the job as do veteran human resource professionals. For instance, according to a Beyond.com survey of 6,361 job seekers and veteran HR professionals taken from April 12 to May 9, 2013, here is how Millenials view themselves:

• Hard working – 86% agreed

• Loyal to their employers – 82%

• People-savvy – 65%

• Tech-savvy – 35%

• Fun-loving – 14%

On the other hand, here is how Millenials were described by the HR pros:

• Tech-savvy – 86% agreed

• Fun-loving – 39%

• People-savvy – 14%

• Hard working – 11%

• Loyal to their employers – 1%

Won’t be Here Long

If you have a Millennial on your team at work, it may be good for you to know that 91% of Millennials expect to be in their current jobs only three years or less. They only plan to stick around to get enough experience, and then move on. Remember Y.O.L.O. (You Only Live Once.) That percentage would translate into them having 15 to 20 jobs during their working lives.

Where Can We Park?

Unlike their parents who moved out to the suburbs to start their families, 41% of Millenials want to live in or near the city. One of the reasons they can do that is that while 50% of their parents were married with children at the same age, only 12% of Millennials have a spouse and their own family.

10 reasons Baby Boomers are the worst generation

(Language warning:) Gen-Xer Gavin McInnes calls Baby Boomers “the worst generation.” Ironically, his parents, who are also Boomers, hate their own cohort and passed this along to Gavin – who passes it along to you! MORE:

READ Gavin McInnes’ “gut-punchingly hilarious” memoir, “The Death of Cool”

How Baby-Boomers Can Effectively Coach and Mentor Millennials

There has been a great deal written and discussed about GenY and their soon to be dominance in the workplace. How are we (Baby-Boomers) to prepare them to run companies, marketing campaigns, and innovation labs? By effectively coaching and mentoring them!

The Bureau of Labor Statistics state that Baby-Boomers will hold an average of 3-5 jobs in their careers; GenX 11-15; and GenY 25+. Why is this? Many state that Millennials evidently are not getting the upward movement they believe they deserve and, therefore, feel compelled to change jobs. My take is different. I do not blame Millennials for this, but existing company business professionals for not mentoring and coaching them. They are not being taken under the wings of company managers and co-workers and led through the labyrinth of corporate bureaucracies. How can a new college recruit be expected to know the inner-workings of a large corporation? And this high-rate of turnover is extremely expensive for businesses. An article in INC magazine by Suzanne Lucas states: “What do all these costs add up to? Well how much? Estimates run as high as 150 percent of annual salary. Much less for lower level positions, but still significant enough to make retention a high priority for your business.” Most companies realize this, and have set up on-boarding programs, but they only go so far.

While an organization can set up formal mentoring programs, I believe “natural” connections work the best. What is the number one attribute of a good mentor? Listening! I’ve always subscribed to the idea that God gave you two ears and one mouth so you will listen twice as much as you speak. [This is especially true for successful sales people – they need to uncover the “real” needs of their customers before a sale is made.] You need to hear the challenges/concerns of the [typically] younger employee before you can assist them.

A common misconception is that a mentor has to be someone senior or in a higher management position; mentors can be peers, who may actually be better able to give hard-hitting advice. I also believe someone out of the direct chain of command will make a better mentor. Mentoring, while I believe works best in an informal setting, it needs to be done on a regular, consistent basis. Every month or every other month, depending on the assistance required. It should be done away from the workplace if possible, so you can give undivided attention. Mentoring takes time and commitment from both parties; make sure you set aside enough time so meetings are not rushed. Just as important as being mentored, is mentoring others – to play it forward. It can build your own character and give you insight to the organizational needs of others.

While coaching is similar to mentoring, I believe it is more of a process done in the chain-of-command. Both are extremely important to retain the best employees and reduce hiring costs.